Comments on: There and Back Again http://www.gnorb.net/745/there-and-back-again Fiction has to be plausible. Reality is under no such constraint. Thu, 26 Jan 2012 04:13:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Junior http://www.gnorb.net/745/there-and-back-again#comment-17400 Junior Thu, 04 Jan 2007 03:36:06 +0000 http://www.gnorb.net/life/20061231/there-and-back-again/#comment-17400 I figured taking up the presidency of the united states for any amount of time requires that something extra that most people don't have, regardless of their boo boos. I figured taking up the presidency of the united states for any amount of time requires that something extra that most people don’t have, regardless of their boo boos.

]]> By: Gnorb http://www.gnorb.net/745/there-and-back-again#comment-17297 Gnorb Tue, 02 Jan 2007 16:49:49 +0000 http://www.gnorb.net/life/20061231/there-and-back-again/#comment-17297 So was I. "Great"? The guy who was never technically elected to anything, lasted only 2 years, and pardoned Nixon? Hmm... I guess my definition of "great" is just a bit more narrow. So was I. “Great”? The guy who was never technically elected to anything, lasted only 2 years, and pardoned Nixon? Hmm… I guess my definition of “great” is just a bit more narrow.

]]> By: Junior http://www.gnorb.net/745/there-and-back-again#comment-17275 Junior Tue, 02 Jan 2007 05:16:24 +0000 http://www.gnorb.net/life/20061231/there-and-back-again/#comment-17275 I think the line can be said in a genuine manner if it comes from someone you believe to be genuine. I must agree with gnorb in the sense that if you start out being honest and throw in a little tact in your use of words, everything will be alright. At least that is what a few other people have suggested unto me. I also believe this is easier said than done...at first. Also to the president comment, i was referrign to gerald ford. I think the line can be said in a genuine manner if it comes from someone you believe to be genuine. I must agree with gnorb in the sense that if you start out being honest and throw in a little tact in your use of words, everything will be alright. At least that is what a few other people have suggested unto me.

I also believe this is easier said than done…at first.

Also to the president comment, i was referrign to gerald ford.

]]> By: Gnorb http://www.gnorb.net/745/there-and-back-again#comment-16938 Gnorb Mon, 01 Jan 2007 04:59:46 +0000 http://www.gnorb.net/life/20061231/there-and-back-again/#comment-16938 "a great former president"? Uhm... ok. - As for advice: I think the best advice you can get is found in How to Win Friends and Influence People. Unfortunately, that's easier said (and read) than actually done. - As for me, I'm just always honest. Sometimes blatantly, other times diplomatically. Does this get me in trouble? Sometimes. However, I've learned to take a little "fault" men find in women and turned it to my advantage. See, most men think that when women complain to them about someting (say, a rough day at work) they're looking for an answer, when in fact, most of the time, they're just looking for a sounding board. This propensity towards solving problems and offering advice has gotten men in to trouble since the days of Patanjali. However, when your opinion is being asked, give it. If someting looks good, tell it. If something doesn't, tell it. (A simple "That fails to accentuate your best features" usually does it.) Then, you can proceed to tell her *why* you think it looks good or bad. ("It makes you look professional and relaxed" and "It accentuates your best physical traits" are good explanations for the former. "It looks good, but only because you're in it" and "Some designer obviously expected a much more mundane woman thank yourself to wear this, since it down plays your best features" are good responses for the later. "Dear god, what are you thinking" is never a good response.) - Luckily, I've never had to worry about The Wife on this one: all through our relationship I've been blatantly honest with her, and she's returned the favor, lying to me only when absolutely needed. You may want to ask her about that next time you see her, thouhgh ;-) “a great former president”? Uhm… ok.
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As for advice: I think the best advice you can get is found in How to Win Friends and Influence People. Unfortunately, that’s easier said (and read) than actually done.
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As for me, I’m just always honest. Sometimes blatantly, other times diplomatically. Does this get me in trouble? Sometimes. However, I’ve learned to take a little “fault” men find in women and turned it to my advantage. See, most men think that when women complain to them about someting (say, a rough day at work) they’re looking for an answer, when in fact, most of the time, they’re just looking for a sounding board. This propensity towards solving problems and offering advice has gotten men in to trouble since the days of Patanjali. However, when your opinion is being asked, give it. If someting looks good, tell it. If something doesn’t, tell it. (A simple “That fails to accentuate your best features” usually does it.) Then, you can proceed to tell her *why* you think it looks good or bad. (“It makes you look professional and relaxed” and “It accentuates your best physical traits” are good explanations for the former. “It looks good, but only because you’re in it” and “Some designer obviously expected a much more mundane woman thank yourself to wear this, since it down plays your best features” are good responses for the later. “Dear god, what are you thinking” is never a good response.)
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Luckily, I’ve never had to worry about The Wife on this one: all through our relationship I’ve been blatantly honest with her, and she’s returned the favor, lying to me only when absolutely needed. You may want to ask her about that next time you see her, thouhgh ;-)

]]> By: Melissa R. Garrett http://www.gnorb.net/745/there-and-back-again#comment-16925 Melissa R. Garrett Mon, 01 Jan 2007 03:44:34 +0000 http://www.gnorb.net/life/20061231/there-and-back-again/#comment-16925 Had my husband made the comment to me, I would have swooned. Oh that would have made my day! But he still would have gotten "the look." Can it really be said and sound genuine? Had my husband made the comment to me, I would have swooned. Oh that would have made my day! But he still would have gotten “the look.” Can it really be said and sound genuine?

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